Journey Of Change Advanced Course

Ideally the trainee works with couples currently and has attended either the Keeping or Getting Workshop so they understand mirroring

Imago Master Trainer, Maya Kollman, and Senior Clinical Instructor, Sophie Slade, developed this course a few years ago when they were grappling with the challenges that couples face when trying to make the changes they have committed to in the Behavior Change Request Dialogue. Sophie and Maya had noticed, as had others, that despite the good intentions and beautiful work couples do during the BCR dialogue, they often do not follow through with the new behaviors. This course addresses the difficulties that result from couples needing to make some very significant shifts in their relationship in order to be successful. The nine shifts are

From Certainty Toward Curiosity
From Reactivity Toward Intentionality
From Blaming Toward Self-Reflection
From Symbiosis Toward Differentiation
From Complaints Toward Requests
From Negativity Toward Possibility
From Individual Frustrations Toward the Relational Dance
From Childhood Story Toward Adult Narratives

Guide participants through the nine essential shifts.
Help participants know how to navigate the inevitable difficulties that face couples when they begin to change old patterns.
Help participants discover the ways in which they block change from occurring because of their own character structure.
Encourage participants to create communities of learning to enhance their skill levels.
Help participants discover verbal and no verbal ways to create safe connection.

Facilitate dialogues that help couples’ change their pattern.
List the nine shifts that need to occur to bring about lasting change.
Articulate the ways in which they block their own effectiveness with couples
Create a growth plan to move forward.
Restructure negative interactions into positive interactions with couples
Identify symbiosis in couples and develop differentiation
Integrate use of dialogue with couples to state what they want
Deduce relational issues of frustrations
Construct cohesive adult narrative from childhood narrative for couples
Dramatize role-play of narrative into behaviors
Transfer adult cohesive narrative into future vision of relationship
Label defensive postures
Transform blame into self-responsibility
Transfer reactivity into useful intentionality for dialogue
Recommend verbal and non-verbal ways to create a safe connection in relationship

9:00 – 10:00 Welcome, Centering, What is this course about?
10:00 – 10:45 Dyads for Day One
10:45 – 11:00 Process Dyads
11:00 – 11:15 Break
11:00 – 11:30 Lecture: Defensive Posture Exercise
11:30 – 11:45 Lecture: Introduce the shifts
11:45 – 1:00 Lecture: From Reactivity to Intentionality
1:00 – 2:30 Lunch
2:30 – 3:30 Lecture: From Blaming the other to looking at the Self
3:30 – 3:45 Process
3:45 – 4:00 Break
4:00 – 5:00 Lecture: From Focusing on the Negative to Enhancing the Positive
5:00 – 5:30 Wrap Up and New Learnings.

9:00 – 9:15 Centering: One world to describe what you are feeling.
9:15 – 9:30 Lecture: From Symbiosis to Differentiation: Embracing Difference
9:30 – 10:00 Demo: The Dialogue from Symbiosis to Differentiation
10:00 – 10:15 Process
10:15 – 10:30 Break
10:30 – 11:00 Lecture: Stating what you want rather than what you don’t want.
11:00 – 11:45 Demo: BCR with Giving and Receiving and Enactment
11:45 – 1:00 Practice BCR
1:00 – 2:30 Lunch
2:30 – 3:00 Lecture: From Frustration to Relational Issue
3:00 – 3:30 Demo: Dialogue
3:30 – 3:45 Break
3:45 – 4:30 Practice Dialogue
4:30 – 4:45 Process
4:45 – 5:00 Closing

9:00 – 9:30 Centering
9:30 – 10:00 Lecture: From Childhood Story to Cohesive Adult Narrative
10:00 – 10:30 Demo: Discovering the new narrative
10:30 – 11:30 Practice
11:30 – 11:45 Process
11:45 – 12:15 Lecture: From New Narrative to New Behavior
12:15 – 1:15 Lunch
1:15 – 1:45 Lecture: From Identifying New Behavior to Practicing It
1:45 – 2:30 Demo: Enactments
2:30 – 3:00 Vision of your Journey of Change Choose one to use at the Closing
3:00 – 3:30 Integration on page
3:30 – 4:30 Closing using one of the visions and how you plan to support the transformation

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