Learn to guess where your couple is and how to bring the structure to them.
Recognize those couples who present a personal ‘challenge’ and how to use inner attunement and embodied presence, to stay present and available to both of them when they or you feel challenged to feel connected.
Explore and develop an awareness of negative attachment and developmental cycles through the use of Imago work-up or a guess at the core scene with your couples.
Identify where clients are developmentally and respond appropriately in response to what may be surfacing with regard to unmet needs.
Think about how their unmet needs and lost parts might pull on your own or your lost parts.
Understand emotion from the perspective of connection and disconnection, and the polarities of joy and anxiety.